I am going to talk about something today that may not seem like love and light but healing comes from awareness and revelation. Over the years I have reflected on the family patterns of my mother and my grand mother. I recognised that I to followed the familiar pattern which was reinforced by society to take care of others before myself. Unlike my mother and grand mother I was afforded the opportunity to attend college and later go to university. I have read countless books and attended many courses all with the purpose of improving my life and that of my daughter's. I heard my mum say some years ago that she'd not had the chance to follow her dreams and be a nursery nurse because she'd devoted her life to taking care of others in an unpaid capacity. Once we were of a certain age and attending High School mum returned to part time work of a manual nature which was not so well paid. My grand mother, I called (nannie growing up!) worked in manual jobs in various industries for meagre wages. She later took care of my ailing grand father just as she had retired. Both of these very significant women in my life encouraged me to get an education so I wouldn't have to work so hard for meagre wages.
As my daughter will convey, I've attended many courses and have enough books to fill a library :-) and I have applied a lot of what I have learnt. I even took some time off work to go back to college to ensure I had the right qualifications to become a mature student. I confess to always having a hard time at work never really fitting in with the bosses vision. I have a pet hate for seeing others including myself mistreated and disrespected. Yet, this seems to be the way the world of work was! The boss previously a worker was dominated and manipulated and treated poorly and then works their way up and then treats those under them in much the same way. I am told this is work ethic in practice! So going to university and being in education was much preferred to working. Don't get me wrong I am not lazy although I do love to sit and read and gaze out of the window dreaming of what it would be like if others treated each other well.
However, I found similar practices during my placements at university. I wonder whether these people just don't have a clue how to nurture those under their guardianship. It appears so, yet some seem to get out alive! I expect since our thoughts affect others that these people in power position could sense that I did not agree with their work ethic. After letting go of this formal education when it was obvious it was not my best fit either, I went and studied Performance Coaching and NLP. It is here I realised how poor teaching practices really are with out coaching and NLP, which are the cornerstones to excellent communication and understanding of other people. What I did realise is the more I learnt over the years the more upset I was with the system and work ethic which under pinned nearly every job and educational establishment I'd encountered (yes there were one or two that didn't fit this mold!) The lack of nurturing those in your guardianship.
I feel like many in the trap of this system because despite being in the process of building up my own business, I need to earn a living in a part time job in the meantime. This part time job is one where much is expected and the pay is meagre so despite all the education I am actually doing a job similar to my mother and grand mother (nannie)! I am told its due to the recession. I feel the system doesn't support the majority. So what's the solution? Reconnecting with your Inner Team just sit quietly and breath and ask "Inner Team please guide me". And you'll begin to see your family patterns and correct them so you end up with people who have a better understanding of nurturing you!
Joanne Lovett
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As my daughter will convey, I've attended many courses and have enough books to fill a library :-) and I have applied a lot of what I have learnt. I even took some time off work to go back to college to ensure I had the right qualifications to become a mature student. I confess to always having a hard time at work never really fitting in with the bosses vision. I have a pet hate for seeing others including myself mistreated and disrespected. Yet, this seems to be the way the world of work was! The boss previously a worker was dominated and manipulated and treated poorly and then works their way up and then treats those under them in much the same way. I am told this is work ethic in practice! So going to university and being in education was much preferred to working. Don't get me wrong I am not lazy although I do love to sit and read and gaze out of the window dreaming of what it would be like if others treated each other well.
However, I found similar practices during my placements at university. I wonder whether these people just don't have a clue how to nurture those under their guardianship. It appears so, yet some seem to get out alive! I expect since our thoughts affect others that these people in power position could sense that I did not agree with their work ethic. After letting go of this formal education when it was obvious it was not my best fit either, I went and studied Performance Coaching and NLP. It is here I realised how poor teaching practices really are with out coaching and NLP, which are the cornerstones to excellent communication and understanding of other people. What I did realise is the more I learnt over the years the more upset I was with the system and work ethic which under pinned nearly every job and educational establishment I'd encountered (yes there were one or two that didn't fit this mold!) The lack of nurturing those in your guardianship.
I feel like many in the trap of this system because despite being in the process of building up my own business, I need to earn a living in a part time job in the meantime. This part time job is one where much is expected and the pay is meagre so despite all the education I am actually doing a job similar to my mother and grand mother (nannie)! I am told its due to the recession. I feel the system doesn't support the majority. So what's the solution? Reconnecting with your Inner Team just sit quietly and breath and ask "Inner Team please guide me". And you'll begin to see your family patterns and correct them so you end up with people who have a better understanding of nurturing you!
Joanne Lovett
[email protected]
Facebook:
Expansionisthewaybusiness
Twitter: @youcandhandleit
You tube:
Joanne Lovett
Linked in: Joanne Lovett
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